Call to Attention
The grace and peace of God our Father who raised our Lord Jesus Christ from the dead, be with you all.
We have gathered in Worship for the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ and to remember the Life of Gerrit Douma.
By way of comfort consider the Revelation of God,
John 11:25 Jesus said … “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live,26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die.
Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints. Psalm 116:15
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in need. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way,
though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling. — Psalm 46:1-2
“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God;[a] believe also in me. 2 In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. 4 And you know the way to where I am going.” 5 Thomas said to him, “Lord, we do not know where you are going. How can we know the way?” 6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. (John 14:1-6)
Because of these great and precious promises, those united to Christ, believe that all the ties of family, friendship and affection which knit us together throughout our lives can in no way be unraveled by death. Confident of God’s love and His ability to keep His own, even in the face of death, let us pray.
Opening Prayer
Benevolent and Holy Father
the death of our Father, GrandFather, Uncle, Brother and Friend Gerrit Douma
reminds us of our frail human condition
and that life is but a vapor.
Yet for those who are owned and loved by you
because of your provision in the finished work of our Lord Jesus Christ,
death is not the end,
nor can it destroy the bonds
that bind the departed saints to you and to the saints that remain.
We who remain as the Church militant, understand our union with the Church at rest.
Help we who are gathered here to share that faith together
even through our tears and sadness.
Bring the light of Christ’s resurrection
to shine on this time of grief and emptiness,
through Jesus Christ our Lord.
AMEN.
Hymn — By The Sea Of Crystal
One of the portions of Scripture that Gerrit had memorized was the 23rd Psalm. He recited it more than once during his recent convalescence,
23 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
2
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
3
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness
for his name’s sake.
4
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
5
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
6
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
Paul offers us comfort likewise in his letter to the Thessalonians,
13 But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. 14 For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. 15 For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord,[d] that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16 For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. 18 Therefore encourage one another with these words. — I Thessalonians 4
Having been reminded of the ability of God to keep his own we rise to lift our voices in praise sining,
* Hymn — How Great Thou Art
Eulogy – Gospel
When we consider the Eulogy we are reminded that the word literally means “good words,” or “good saying.” It is the point in the service where we remember the virtues of the one who has been excused from this life. It is not a time we seek to preach someone into heaven and it is not a time where magnify the deceased above our magnifying of the Lord Christ. It is a time where we magnify God by speaking of a life well lived of one of those who bore the Image of God. The virtue we see in the Saint departed is a virtue that was kneaded into the Saint by the ongoing sanctification of the Spirit of God.
Work Ethic
When we speak of Gary we can speak of his long faithfulness to Marge and the children. We can speak of his career as a Parole Officer. We could speak of his dry and droll humor.
Let us start by remembering that Gerrit was never far from the soil. He grew up close to the land and the noble calling of Farmer was never completely extinguished in him. Gary would recall stories about time on the farm and time helping one of his Grandfathers sell produce. Even after marriage Gary remained close to the land via his Saturday work on the Litch farm where he earned 1.25 an hour plus the opportunity to raise his own crop.
I’ve never met a family Farmer who didn’t know how to work and a strong work ethic is a gift of the Lord. When we work, we reflect a God who works. The Christian faith, wherever it has gone in history, has always produced a work ethic in those who were called of God. And in God’s providence the work on the Litch farm taught Gary’s son the work ethic as well as eventually Tom would be put to work as well.
We could say more of the work ethic. We could note that after Gerrit retired he didn’t retire. There remained the work of driving for Spartan, and all the work that could be found in tandem with and on top of a Tractor. It was only in the last few months that Gary conceded that he had finally retired.
Traveling,
Then there was the Traveling.
Gerrit used the road to bond with his family. Years ago, Gary and Tom took off on a 6 week road trip across the country in a hatch-back pinto. Do you remember those hatch-back Ford Pintos? This was living on the edge.
The day would come when Grandsons would head off with Grandpa on these types of road trips.
Singing
While on those road trips it was not unknown for Gary to burst out in song. Perhaps at the end of a long days drive. Perhaps when on top of a Mountain when soaking in the beauty of God’s handiwork. Perhaps while driving.
Singing was close to Gary his whole life. He spoke many times of his time singing in the Calvin College Choir when they preformed the Messiah. He would travel yearly for some years to Randolph Wisconsin to hear the Men’s choir. He would sing in our annual Christmas worship service. Sometimes solo. Sometimes in duets. Sometimes in quartets. He loved to sing.
In the last few years Mr. Douma would always lead the doxology in the Evening service. Often he would lead us in what is particularly poignant today.
Lyrics
1. God be with you till we meet again;
By his counsels guide, uphold you;
With his sheep securely fold you.
God be with you till we meet again.
(Chorus)
Till we meet, till we meet,
Till we meet at Jesus’ feet,
Till we meet, till we meet,
God be with you till we meet again.
2. God be with you till we meet again;
When life’s perils thick confound you,
Put his arms unfailing round you.
God be with you till we meet again.
3. God be with you till we meet again;
Keep love’s banner floating o’er you;
Smite death’s threat’ning wave before you.
God be with you till we meet again.
Before we knew it Gary was closing every meeting with a doxology. A business meeting. A fellowship activity. He even asked to close one of the weddings with a doxology. He loved to sing.
Even in his last days he was singing God’s songs to and with folks who would come to visit.
Praying,
Similar to that motif, I used to love to hear Gary pray.
By the means of a combination of the Timber of his voice, and the cadence in his speech it was a privilege to hear him pray. More then cadence and timber though was the deep solemnity that Gerrit brought to prayer. The old timers used to say of people that they “could pray you into heaven.” Because of Gary’s sense of God’s majesty his prayers would bring us before God’s throne.
Like all of us here today, Gary had his pecadillos, idiosyncrasies, and besetting sins but these help explain why he loved the Church. He knew he was a sinner and was in constant need of being reminded that Christ was a greater savior than he was a sinner.
OPEN TIME … OPEN TIME … OPEN TIME … OPEN TIME
Church
Mr. Douma’s attachment to the Church was part of his covenant heritage.
He told me a story once that I have, in turn, told many times myself in other settings.
Part of Gary’s childhood memory included a Grandfather who would carry a ill Grandmother into and out of Church each Sunday. Doubtless this made an impression upon him on the importance of the Church.
His commitment to the Church, then, was doubtless a commitment that was passed on from generations prior. God promised to be the God of us and our seed and God’s faithfulness was seen in those Grandparents. Seen in Gary’s parents presenting Gary as a infant to be Baptized. And was seen in Gary reading Scripture to his children at meal time and making sure they were in Catechism and in Church.
For generations then, to date, — because of God’s faithfulness alone to His covenant promises — the name “Douma” as been associated with the Reformed Church and so the Biblical faith once forever delivered to the saints. It is my earnest prayer that for generations yet to come that will remain true of the “Douma” name.
You see the Reformed Church was only important for Gary as it was a carrier for the Message of Christ Crucified — the one who brings sinners into God’s approval because of His death, resurrection and ascension.
The message of the Reformed faith that Gary lived and died by is succinctly summarized in the Heidelberg confession,
Q.
What is your only comfort
in life and death?
A.
That I am not my own,
but belong with body and soul,
both in life and in death,
to my faithful Saviour Jesus Christ.
He has fully paid for all my sins
with his precious blood,
and has set me free
from all the power of the devil.
He also preserves me in such a way
that without the will of my heavenly Father
not a hair can fall from my head;
indeed, all things must work together
for my salvation.
Therefore, by his Holy Spirit
he also assures me
of eternal life
and makes me heartily willing and ready
from now on to live for him.
In this catechism we are reminded of why we bother with Church.
We are reminded that no man owns Himself.
Pleasant poetry notwithstanding none of us can say that “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.” As mortals we are not independent beings. We belong either to God or to the enemy.
The Heidelberg, following Scripture, tells us that if we belong to God it is by way of the work on the Cross done by Jesus Christ.
We are thus reminded that apart from trusting Christ our sins will eat us up.
And this is a large part of what the Church is to remind us every week. We are great sinners but Christ is a greater savior. Apart from Christ we become alienated from God, from others and even from ourselves. Apart from Christ we constantly seek to de-god God and en-god ourselves so that all people and things serve us and our wants. Apart from Christ we are bent in upon ourselves. Only Christ can deliver us both from God’s just anger against sin, from our sin, and from ourselves at the same time.
We are thus reminded that the Christian life looks like something
By the work of the Spirit we now longer live for ourselves as the center of all things. Now we live with God as the center of all things. We live for Him. And we learn what it means to live for Him by knowing and conforming to His explicit instructions as set forth in Scriptural revelation.
Yes we fail … every day in word, thought or deed, but our failure doesn’t diminish or eliminate God’s grace. Instead the thought of God’s forgiveness in Christ fills us with gratitude to the end of confessing our sin and then rising to be again hearty and willing to live for Him.
This is the Faith of clan Douma for generations and this is the faith that remains for generations to come.
Let us stand for prayer,
Prayer
Triune God of all mercy who has given us the Holy Spirit for consolation.
We are reminded Father that you are our refuge in times of sorrow,
our light in death’s darkness,
and our stability when faced with the valley of the shadow of death.
Comfort your people in their loss and sorrow we beseech thee.
Be a reservoir of hope to Gary’s family during this time.
Lift them from their grief
into the peace and light of your presence.
We thank thee, that your Son, our Lord Jesus Christ,
by dying has destroyed our death,
and by rising, restored our life.
Enable us now to press on toward him,
so that, after our earthly course is run,
you may reunite us with those we love,
when every tear is wiped away.
We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord.
AMEN.
Having Prayed for you, I ask that we might confess our Faith by praying together the Prayer our Lord taught us to pray,
Our Father who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors;
and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom, and the power,
and the glory, for ever. Amen.
And now receive the Benediction
May the peace of God
which is beyond understanding,
keep your hearts and minds
in the knowledge and love of God
and of his Son, our Lord Jesus Christ.
AMEN.
—Philippians 4:7
