Titus 2:1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
We start up with this passage by insisting again that we have been duped in the language wars. We are speaking about what is been dubbed “feminism,” but as we noted last week that is definitely an example of Orwellian Newspeak. We have in feminism a definitional inversion of reality.
Consider that once upon a time the word feminine was defined as
FEM’ININE, adjective [Latin femininus, from femina, woman. The first syllable may be and probably is from wemb or womb, by the use of f for w; the b not being radical. The last part of the word is probably from man, quasi, femman, womb-man.]
1. Pertaining to a woman, or to women, or to females; as the female sex.
2. soft; tender; delicate. Her heavenly form angelic, but more soft and feminine
Now, when considering feminism there is nothing at all feminine about feminism. Indeed feminism pours limitless contempt on all femininity, and commends women to adopt all the brashest and basest behaviors of men. Which in turn, reveals Feminism to be the purest form of Misogyny. For this reason we have adopted the more accurate term of Lilithism.
Though we have restricted ourselves to looking at Lilithism in the home, per the passage, we should note in passing that Lilith is on the rise in all of our institution. Just this week Rev. Larry Ball sent me an article he wrote for a Presbyterian denomination website. In that article Rev. Ball complained,
Secondly, the rise of functional female elders and deacons in the PCA is symptomatic of the sinful equality inherent in Marxism. God created man and woman different and there is a godly and biblical hierarchy in this creation. Yet, the PCA continues to try to put out fires in various churches where this unbiblical equality of men and women raises its ugly head. Again, Marxist equality is creeping into the PCA.
So, the Lilithism that we are exposing again this morning finds itself dominating elsewhere besides our family orders.
As we come to this passage again this week we have need to point out something we left unsaid last week. We did not mention how untoward this passage is in terms of modern Lilith thinking. Here we find Paul, a man, writing to another man “Titus,” on how to speak and instruct older women. Didn’t St. Paul and the Holy Spirit know that a man can never speak to a woman on woman issues? After all what does a man know about being a woman? Yet, despite this modern well known fact that only women can speak to women about women issues, Paul has the temerity as a man to tell another man to tell even older women how to behave as women.
This is yet another reason why this passage and others like it so irritate modern day Lilith women. Where does a man get off in telling women how to behave as women? Had not Paul or Titus ever seen the T-Shirts that say, “It’s a woman thing. You wouldn’t understand.”
So, with that said we pick up from last week and remind ourselves that this passage is not about men being superior to women. We freely admitted last week that in a non-crazed social order women are superior to men at being women just as men are superior to women at being men. So, none of this is about one sex being superior to another. Clearly men and women are therefore not equal. What we have been considering is merely about the roles that God has assigned respectively to men and women.
And this passage is one passage that points us in that direction. Older women are to be role models for younger women because older women, presumably, have walked where the younger women are now walking. The Holy Spirit inspired Paul writes that the older women have a role in the Christian social order and that role is to admonish the younger women. The Greek word here for “admonish” is translated different ways. Some have it as “admonish,” others have it as “train,” others, “urge,” others, “encourage,” others still, “instruct,” “make sober-minded,” and finally some have “school.”
they can train
σωφρονίζωσιν (sōphronizōsin) sophronizosin
Verb – Present Subjunctive Active – 3rd Person Plural
Strong’s 4994: To make sober-minded, admonish, control. From sophron; to make of sound mind, i.e. to discipline or correct.
So you can see there is a range of nuance here. The idea though seems pretty clear that the older women are to come alongside the younger women to the end of helping them in living the domestic life.
Now, before we dig into that notice that Paul does not have any category here for single professional women. You have older women who have experience in domestic skills and you have younger married women. Now Scripture elsewhere will teach that some will have the gift of singleness and that must be understood, however except for those comparative few with that gift it is God’s will that young men and women should marry. It is why God said, “It is not good that man should be alone. I will make a help-meet suitable for him.” Marriage, and the domestic life are the natural calling for women and we see that here in this passage.
Now keep in mind here that the ultimate purpose of all this is to beautify the Christian faith. To make it attractive. The Cretans had a reputation for wildness and Paul is calling Titus to bring in order to family life so that the family order would serve as Gospel salt and light.
This admonishment, training, urging, that the older women are to engage upon w/ the younger women is first to love their husbands and children. Now, we here might read that and say, “Isn’t that kind of Captain obvious advice?” But if we paused a moment and considered where we now are in the 21st century is that really such obvious advice? Remember, the 1st century would have the same need to instruct young women to love their husbands and children as we have today.
Of course this matter of loving their husbands and children finds itself expressed in any number of ways. Christian women loving their husbands and children tend to make them a priority over herself. She knows how to fulfill their need before they even realize they will have a need.
Now, before we get too carried away with this gents we must remember that Paul says the same thing to men in Ephesians where he tells husbands to love their wives as Christ love the church.
So, there it is, there is this mutual dying to self in service of the other that one should find in a Christian home. This is the idea of women loving their husbands and husbands loving their wives. Together the husband and wife love their children.
Now here I go to meddling ….
It’s not love to your children to place them in Government schools. It’s not husband love to a young wife to expect her to carry an impossible load of keeping the home as well so bringing home the bacon. It is not young wife love to a husband to not be, as the text teaches, the maker of the home.
Now, of course all of this is pure patriarchy. It is what the Lilith turn hates. We have more of this kind of talk ahead of us. Clearly, God teaches that men and women are not interchangeable cogs. Just as you cannot use a chainsaw to be a socket wrench, just as one does not use fresh roses for starting a bonfire, so one does not use a woman to be a man or a man to be a woman.
The text here calls younger women to be discreet. We have seen this same Greek word already. Paul, using this same word, calls for self-control not only for older men (2:2) but also for overseers (1:8), younger women (v. 5), younger men (v. 6). However as that word is flush by the word “chaste,” here there is good reason to think that the Apostle has something particular in mind. If we would put it in our language today as negatives we might phrase it that the young married women are not to be flirts or harlots… they are to be discrete and chaste.
Calvin has this to say here about the call to be discrete and chaste,
“In short, he wishes women to be restrained, by conjugal love and affection for their children, from giving themselves up to licentious attachments…”
Young women should only be using their “come hither” look with their husbands.
Now, we need to realize in a culture that does not have a transcendent reference point as among the Cretans then or Americans today neither men nor women really have anything to restrict them from embracing the sexual mores of animals. However, Paul does have God and His Word as a transcendent reference point, thus he can, based upon God’s authority call for women to fulfill their roles by being discrete and chaste.
Of course the lack of being discrete and chaste is rampant in our social order. This was seen again this week with the whole Cornell University episode.
The next few phrases really lights the fires of those who have embraced Lilith. Paul instructs that the younger women be instructed to be, “homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands,”
This idea of “homemakers,” is
οἰκουργούς (oikourgous)
Strong’s 3626: A keeper-at-home, a housekeeper. From oikos and ouros; a stayer at home, i.e. Domestically inclined.
Of course in the West, and particularly in America, long ago the moneyed corporate foundations in this country pursued a course to force women out of the home into the work force. Our whole economy now is organized so that young women cannot be homemakers. Further, when young women are homemakers they are somehow often looked down upon. How many times has the expression been used, “Oh, she doesn’t work, she just stays at home.” As if being a homemaker isn’t work. As if a homemaker ever quits working. A man works from sun to sun but a woman’s work is never done was not a proverb that came into existence without reason.
Look, it is this kind of women that should be given the greatest respect in the church. Men get all the attention for their work but what of the women who were homemakers who were helpmeets to their husbands so that they could do the work that they became known for?
Second wave feminism arose from the inspiration of Simone Beauvoir and Betty Friedan denigrating both homemakers and the Christianity that called for homemakers who were obedient to their husbands. This they said… this homemaking, this being good, this being obedient to their husbands was denigrating to women.
In her book, “The Second Sex,” Beauvoir complained bitterly about what she called “patriarchal domination,” She offered that Christianity was one reason for patriarchy writing that “the beliefs of Christianity played no little role in women’s oppression.” She wrote that the Apostle Paul reiterated the most patriarchal strains of Jewish thought in his writing and therefore embeds anti-Lilithism notions into Christian theology. Beauvoir believed that “womanly” behavior does not arise from the female sex inherently but womanly behavior is instead a patriarchally determined standard of propriety for the purpose of subordinating women. So, per the second wave of Litlithism, female behavior is a matter of wicked Christian nurturing and not a matter of God ordained nature.
This second wave of Lilithism eventually led to a third wave where all arguments that men and women are different by nature are completely attacked in favor of the idea that maleness and femaleness is merely a social construct. This view brought us to a riveting point wherein a female candidate for the Supreme Court could not answer the question, “What is a Woman.” If maleness and femaleness is all a social construct then there really is no stable answer as to what is a woman.
But we return to the testimony of God’s Word that the nature and so role of men and women are distinct.
Let us not lose the implications of this refusal to accept that women should be homemakers, good, and obedient to their husbands. When we lose this primary distinction between men and women we begin to lose the whole idea of distinctions as part of our egalitarian stew. Understand the loss of the ability to make distinction between male and female is born of the loss of the ability to make a distinction between God and man.
The reason that first, second, third wave feminism arises is due to the fact that distinctions between all things including male and female are completely arbitrary when the distinction between God and man is denied. The reason that women today in the church are so insulted by the counsel that young women should be homemakers, good, and obedient to their husbands is because both men and women have been captured by the zeitgeist … by the spirit of the age.
There is all this bitter reviling of how women have been degraded by Christianity and the kind of teaching we find here in Titus 2 but look at what a woman said from another generation about the Biblical distinctions of male and female,
No system of philosophy has ever yet worked out in behalf of woman the practical results for good which Christianity has conferred on her. Christianity has raised woman from slavery and made her the thoughtful companion of man; finds her the mere toy, or the victim of his passions, and it places her by his side, his truest friend, his most faithful counselor, his helpmeet in every worthy and honorable task. It protects her far more effectually than any other system. It cultivates, strengthens, elevates, purifies all her highest endowments, and holds out to her aspirations the most sublime for that future state of existence, where precious rewards are promised to every faithful discharge of duty, even the most humble. But, while conferring on her these priceless blessings, it also enjoins the submission of the wife to the husband, and allots a subordinate position to the whole sex while here on earth. No woman calling herself a Christian, acknowledging her duties as such, can, therefore, consistently deny the obligation of a limited subordination laid upon her by her Lord and His Church.
Susan Fenimore Cooper
Now we cannot end without speaking to the teleos … the purpose of this instruction,
that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
This was always the bright star of the Apostles thinking. He appeals to a particular family order for the purpose that the word of God would not be blasphemed. This reminds us that the way we live in the public square matters. Our homes should be sanctuaries wherein the cause of Christ and His Word are be held in esteem.
So, little flock, we must ask ourselves, “Is our family life lived out so that it does not blaspheme the name of God? As husbands do we make it a joy and comfort for our wives to be obedient? As wives are you committed to continuing to learn the art of making a house a home? As men do we lead, provide, and are we sound in our faith?