As we begin the service we note that this service was all planned out by Hilda after Cal died. She decided that all the final arrangements would too difficult for her children given everything else they would be responsible for at her death, so she planned the Memorial service. Upon completion of all the details, she sighed and said to her daughter, Amie …
“It’s going to be such a lovely service, too bad I won’t be there to enjoy it.”
It is my prayer that you will agree with Hilda about the service.
We turn then to the eulogy. Eulogy literally means “Good word.” Christians have always had eulogies at these services because we believe that each life is created as the image of God and as created in the image of God we want to praise that image that was reflected in the deceased. The eulogy is not an attempt to “preach someone into heaven,” rather the purpose of the eulogy is to glorify God for His handiwork in the life of the person being spoken of. The eulogy is to glorify God.
And so we speak of Hilda Mae TeVelde and we thank the Lord Christ for her life. We thank the Lord Christ for how impressed Himself upon her character. Hilda was born and Baptized in a Christian home in the Dutch Reformed tradition with many of the old world traditions part of her upbringing. She was catechized very early and made confession of faith. All of that old world tradition … all of that catechism became part of Hilda’s character.
She excelled in what Christian women of her time and generation excelled at. She lived in a time when the Biblical roles of men and women as found in Scripture were much more embraced… especially as in the conservative Dutch Christian community. As such she embraced the blessing of being a faithful wife and mother as she had embraced before that being a faithful daughter and sister. Eventually with the passing of time Hilda was a faithful Grandmother and Aunt.
Her family was central to her life. A visit to her home demonstrates that. Every occasion when Jane and I would enter into her home I would sit at the table to visit with her and right behind me were photos piled upon photos of primarily her family, but also of many friends and their children. In our conversations I would learn about her recent DeVries or TeVelde family reunion. I think it might have been in these conversations where I learned about the incredible life span the Dutch often have. Hilda would regale us with stories about her nieces and nephews and grand-nieces and grand-nephews… about sisters and sisters-in-laws and brothers and brothers-in-laws and cousins and other assorted family members. My mind could not recall all the names. She loved her family, and this is a characteristic of the godly woman as we find her in the Bible.
She loved and married Cal TeVelde and made a home with Cal and with the children who would soon follow. Perhaps the highest praise of her then could be that of wife and mother, Aunt and Grandmother. She loved y’all deeply. She would commonly ask me to pray for this or that family member during our visits.
Consistent with all this Hilda cooking was legendary. At the various and sundry covered dish dinners at the Church Hilda’s dishes were often the first to be mysteriously emptied. Now, generally speaking the Dutch of her generation knew how to navigate a kitchen and Hilda was a reflection of that.
Hilda loved her gardening year in and year out. During some of our visits she would get as riled as she could about the pesky varmints who were eating her produce. Some men in the Church put up a fence one year but the varmints only found that obstacle humorous. Still, Hilda got a lot of produce out of her garden and would be routinely canning or freezing this or that vegetable. Her fondness of gardening stayed with her to the very end as on her porch this year she had some beans, tomatoes, peppers and squash growing.
As we mentioned earlier though, it was Hilda’s Christian faith that defined who she was. That was seen in her children while little observing their Mom during the evenings sitting alone in the living room reading. Since most of the family life happened in the kitchen or the family room they found that odd but when they became a little older they realized that the book she was reading was her Bible. Hilda routinely stole away from the hubbub of a busy family life to find solace with the Lord.
You see, like all Christians, Hilda’s identity was wrapped up with her Christianity. Like all Christians her Christian faith was not merely an accessory – something one could take off and put on like a piece of clothing but her Christian faith was just who she was.
She grew up in a Christian home being taught the Christian faith. I have found myself wondering over the course of the past few days how many times Hilda might have heard the Heidelberg Catechism or a sermon on the Heidelberg catechism during her life. You see, when she grew up and well into her adult years and aged years she would hear a sermon on that Catechism every Lord’s Day. This was what she was taught and it is what she believed as a Christian.
The Catechism teaches the good news of Jesus Christ. It starts by reminding us that our only comfort in life and death is that we are not our own but belong body and soul and in life and death to our faithful savior Jesus Christ,who with His precious blood, hath fully satisfied for all my sins, and delivered me from all the power of the devil; and so preserves me that without the will of my heavenly Father, not a hair can fall from my head; yea, that all things must be subservient to my salvation, and therefore, by His Holy Spirit, He also assures me of eternal life, and makes me sincerely willing and ready, henceforth, to live unto Him.
Hilda then was taught throughout her whole life that there were three things one had to know in order to live and die in this comfort. This is the Christianity she embraced her whole life and that belief made her to be the person that she was.
Hilda knew, per the teaching of the Catechism, based as it was on Scripture, how great her sin and misery was. Christians embrace the truth that all have sinned and come short of God’s just standard. We know this because that is what the Bible teaches. We understand that without the forgiveness of Jesus Christ whatever goodness we can find in ourselves is as stained and filthy rags. Throughout her life Hilda, sitting under the teaching of her Catechism understood that apart from Christ the only word the Scripture teaches to men is that they are without hope because the just wrath of God abides on them because of their rebellion against God revealing itself in their self-centered living.
Hilda, embraced though that there was a solution to man’s sin problem. She, following that catechism knew and embraced that the only solution to her alienation from God and God’s wrath against her was by trusting Christ. Hilda embraced that Christ who knew no sin, and became sin for us that His people might become the righteousness of God in Christ. Hilda knew that in Christ Jesus there was no condemnation. Yes, sin does accuse but Christ dying in our place as our substitute – the just for the unjust – puts an end to the power of sin to accuse. Hilda, having sat in Christian churches her whole life knew and embraced for herself that her only hope was found in nothing less than Jesus and His righteousness. The catechism teaches that men, in order to escape God’s just judgment against sin must trust in Jesus Christ who alone is the way, the truth, and the life.
Well, we said that Hilda’s catechism taught her that there were three things she must know in order to live and die in the comfort of knowing that we belong to our faithful savior Jesus Christ. We said the first was we must know and embrace the truth of our sin and misery. Second we have said that we must know and embrace the truth that the solution for that sin and misery is the life, death, resurrection and ascension of the Lord Jesus Christ. The redemption and deliverance for all men pivots on knowing Christ. The third truth we must know in order to have Jesus Christ as our faithful savior is the matter of gratitude.
I remember once in church some years ago I was teaching the children’s sermon and I was trying to get the children to remember these three points of what we must know. The children were having trouble remembering
How Great our Sin and Misery
How Great our Deliverance
How Great our Gratitude.
As they were struggling to remember Hilda piped up and said … “Sin, Salvation, Service,” hoping to make the memory work for the children easier.
And Hilda lived out the service/gratitude part of the Catechism. The catechism teaches that the way we live out our gratitude to God for so great a salvation is to walk in faith, under the unction of the Spirit consistent with God’s Law. The catechism teaches that the Christian who loves Jesus Christ for the great deliverance He has secured by His death and resurrection walks in ever increasing though never perfect obedience to the ten commandments. Walking consistent with God’s law out of the joy of gratitude for being rescued from my sin and misery and not out of the motive fear that God’s going to get me, is the delight of the Christian. It was the delight of Hilda TeVelde.
If you are sitting here and do not know the three things that you must know in order to live and die in the comfort of belonging to Jesus Christ allow me to encourage you to have mercy upon your soul and to own the Jesus Christ whom Hilda is now in the presence of. The lacking of that in your life is too horrible to contemplate.