Your insistence that a family is a group of people who have blood ties seems restrictive to me. After all, “Home is where the heart is.” Also, your insistence that Lesbians can not love one another strikes me as uncharitable. Two women can embrace one another in love no differently than a man and a woman can embrace one another in love. You can have fun with your idea of your family and I’ll have fun with mine.
Peace, Love, and Happiness,
One could easily hear the strains of relativism in your statement, “Have fun w/ your idea of your family and I’ll have fun with mine.”
“Your truth is ok for you and my truth is ok for me.”
But God clearly says that Lesbianism is sin and that such people will in no wise enter into the Kingdom of God (See Romans 1 & Galatians 5). Secondly, Scripture consistently displays family as a blood bond normally characterized by a shared belief system, though the aspect of a shared belief system is quickly slipping away in our contemporary setting. The exception that Scripture makes for family as a group of people sharing a bond of blood, in terms of family, is legal adoption.
It might be a proverb that, “Home is where the heart is” but in a Christian normal world, allowing for the exceptions that inevitably occur, the heart would find the home in blood family.
I looked up several definitions of “Family,” and they all included the idea of blood bonds. One just can’t make up the meaning of words as they go. A belief that one can is expressive of post-modernism.
Here is one definition of family,
1. a group descended from a common ancestor.
People can not make themselves a family unit anymore then they can make themselves a school of fish. Now, certainly arrangements exist where persons are functioning as a family, but the fact that they are functioning as a family puts the proof to the reality that they are not family. Otherwise the metaphor would not have to be used. So, yes people who truly care for each other can function as a family but that does not make them a family as a family is a group descended from a common ancestor.
Now, I know there are huge movements out there that are trying to redefine family to mean whatever group of people may assemble on any given day. But if such a movement succeeds in redefining the word and concept of family the loss will be a stable meaning to the word and will introduce even more instability to our social order. In point of fact I would say that the attempt to redefine family is a subtle attack on the Christian definition of family in favor of a post-modern definition of family.
There is no possibility of “Peace, Love, and Happiness,” where man walks outside of God’s revelation found in Scripture.
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Bishop Williamson related an incident that took place at a catholic elemetary school he was visiting. He was observing the 2nd grade class and it was show and tell day. A little girl had brought a kitten to show the class and as she was telling the class about it, someone yelled out: “Is it a boy or girl kitty” Before anyone could answer, another child replied: “Let’s vote on it.” He used this to illustrate the modern view of gender, morality, or in this case how we determine the definition of family. Let’s vote on it. If we say a castrated male who dresses in women’s clothes is really a woman then he is. If we say abortion is OK then it is. And if we say any group of people who decide to live in the same house is a family then it is. This is the chaos of the book of Judges, everyone doing what is right in their own eyes
Thank you Rev. Mahan. My sanity is assuaged when other sane people comment.
I value your friendship.