“God ‘knows our souls in adversity,’ Ps. 31:7; so, should we know the souls of others, IF they be knit to us in any bond of KINDRED, or NATURE, or neighborhood or the like. That bond should provoke us; for bonds are the veins and arteries to derive comfort. All bonds are to derive good, whether bonds of neighborhood, or acquaintance, &c. A man should think with himself, I have this bond to do my neighbor good. It is God’s providence that I should be acquainted with him and do that to that him that I cannot do to a stranger. Let us consider all bonds and let this work upon us: let us consider their grievance is a bond to tie us.”
Richard Sibbes
Complete Works – Vol. III, p. 69
1.) Kindred bonds are the veins and arteries to derive comfort. Hence kin stand uniquely close to us and those not kin are not our veins and arteries wherein we derive comfort. Clearly, Sibbes is communicating that kindred bonds are ordinarily to be prioritized over non-kindred bonds.
2.) Note the category of neighbor and stranger. Sibbes concurs with the idea of the Ordo Amoris and teaches that we have more responsibility to our neighbor (the closer the neighbor the greater the responsibility) than we do to a stranger. This does not mean we hate the stranger. It merely means that God has ordained concentric circles of greater to lesser responsibility for men. The closer someone is to me in vital relationship and/or a shared doctrinally confessed faith the more I am obligated to look out for them. The further someone is to me in vital relationship and/or a shared doctrinally confessed faith the less obligated I am to look out for them. So, for example, I have a greater obligation to look out for the Reformed Christian over and above the Roman Catholic or the Arminian. So, for example, I have a greater obligation to look out for my children than I do for my cousins but a greater obligation for my cousins than for the stranger I bump into at the smoke shop.
“We see in the current of Scripture ordinarily that when God converted any one man, He converted his whole family. ‘Salvation this day come to thy house’ saith Christ to Zaccheus, Luke 19:9. When salvation came into his heart, it came to his house; all was the better for it. So the jailer, when he believed he and his whole house were baptized, Acts 16:33. When God blesseth the governor once, then it is supposed all the house comes under the covenant of grace. Abraham and his house were blessed Gen. 22:17.”
Richard Sibbes
Complete Works – Vol II, p. 354
1.) OT or NT, God deals with people in their familial covenantal structures. To leave the children outside of the covenant of grace, by not giving them the sign of the covenant is to particularize and atomize man, seeing him only as a sovereign individual. It is the error of the Enlightenment liberal worldview.
2.) Covenantal unity establishes Kinism. If the head of the house is drawn by irresistible grace than all in the household family covenant (Kin) are placed within the circle of the covenant of grace. This establishes again the idea that God Himself is a Kinist. People are not saved by blood relation but salvation tends to run in familial lines.